The BIG IDEA:
Sex brings destruction when we experience it outside of God’s design.
Sex is so attractive that it tempts us to experience it outside of God’s design, but sometimes we don’t realize its destructive power until it’s too late.
Trust God for the power to pay attention to his word and guard our hearts against straying from his design.
A danger sign is posted to protect us. It is posted by someone who knows of a danger that we may not be aware of. God knows that sex outside of marriage is dangerous and has consequences we don’t foresee, or want to ignore. His hope is to save us from pain by instructing us to keep sex within marriage.
- What I want the group to know and understand: Sex has the power to destroy our lives when we depart from God’s design in the way we experience it.
- What I want the group to experience: A healthy reverence for God that would cause us not to want to break his heart by departing from God’s design and missing out on his best for our lives.
- How I want the group to respond: By trusting God for the power to listen to his words of wisdom and not let our hearts turn away from his design for sex.
The SIGNIFICANCE OF THE TOPIC:
Our world shouts that it’s great to have sex with anyone at any time in any way and that God’s design for sex is limiting and no fun. Actually, the opposite is true. Having sex outside of God’s design enslaves us, while experiencing sex within God’s design brings freedom from guilt, regret, and brokenness. Since we so often listen to the shout of the world and don’t know about or pay attention to God’s design, we experience incredible brokenness in the sexual area of our lives.
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When we see a “Danger” sign, we know we’re supposed to be careful and stay away. But sometimes the sign can have the opposite effect: it can make us curious and draw us in. Why do you think that is?
Allow the group to discuss. We’re curious and drawn in because we want to come to our own conclusion. Is it really dangerous? There’s something in us that finds it hard to take someone else’s word for it.
1. Read Proverbs 7:6-27, which describes how an unwise person responds to a “Danger” sign warning against sexual immorality. How do verses 6-7 describe this person?
Young (naive) and lacking sense. In this example, the unwise person is male, and the sexually immoral person is female. But the unwise person could just as easily be a female and the sexually immoral person a male.
2. How does the unwise person handle it when he realizes where the sexually immoral person’s house is?
He goes to it (“He takes the way to her house” verse 8). He knows there could be consequences, but all he is thinking about is his immediate pleasure..
3. What stands out to you about the sexually immoral person from verses 10-21?
Allow the group to discuss. She’s aggressive, attractive, and persuasive. She persuades him to be with her by saying no one will find out.
4. How do verses 22-23 describe what happens when he goes along with her?
Even though it seems so inviting, the unwise person who gives in to sexual immorality is actually like an animal being taken away to be killed.
5. What advice is given in verses 24-27? What do you think of this advice?
Listen. Pay attention. Protect your heart against getting tied up in the trap of sexual immorality. Allow the group to discuss. This might be an appropriate time for you to share your experience of how guarding your heart has helped you – or how not guarding your heart has hurt you.
6. According to what we just read, we know that engaging in sexual immorality is unwise, but is it a sin? What does 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5 tell us about this?
It is a sin. God wants us to avoid sexual immorality, which means any kind of sexual activity outside of marriage between a husband and his wife.
7. In what ways can you relate to the unwise person in this story (or to the person enticing others to sex)?
Allow the group to discuss. Ask things like “What are you tempted to do even though there are consequences?” or “What goes through your mind when you are tempted or when you fall?”
8. If you could rewrite this story to give it a happy ending, what changes would you make?
Allow the group to discuss.
9. The man’s main problem is his lack of wisdom. How do you get wisdom?
Allow the group to discuss. Read James 1:5 together.
10. As you look to Jesus for wisdom in light of this study, what is one step you think God wants you to take to pay attention to his “Danger” sign and be a sexually wise person?
Allow the group to discuss. Steps might include:
- choosing to stay away from people, situations, and media that tempt me sexually.
- realizing that God sees all my sexual choices, even when I think no one else does.
- committing to a life of sexual purity.
- remembering to RUN from sexual temptation:
R-ealize that Jesus is better. Being connected to Jesus is way more satisfying than any pleasure that could come from these things.
U-nderstand the power of God’s Spirit and others. Only God’s Spirit can give the power we need to live in a way that honors him. And it’s good to involve friends who share your faith in Christ as you seek to flee these temptations. Text or call to let them know what’s going on and ask for prayer and encouragement.
N-ip temptation before it turns into sin. Examples include turning off your phone when you’re tempted to use it to view porn, or choosing not to be alone if you’re facing temptation with your boyfriend or girlfriend.
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